5 Ways to Fight This Bloody Cancer!

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CANCER!

How many of us get that feeling inside their stomach simply by hearing the word! And yet so many of us are affected by this bloody illness either directly either indirectly, having someone close to our heart: family, friends, loved one, affected by this!

The numbers are so high that it’s almost become ‘normal’. How many of us don’t know at least one person who is suffering from this disease or has someone in their family suffering from it … Feels sad but normal …

And yet when coming to routine it is difficult to accept that this is the route we are taking! Despite medical progress and good increase of life expectancy (at least 1 good thing of having so many cases occurring), there is nothing normal about this!

It gets me angry to know how widespread it has become, and how “normal” this may appear! And while I have the highest respect for medical professionals, research’s, their commitment, etc. it still gets me down the fact that there are so many ways to fight this and we still know so little about it! Not to mention that it just makes no sense to have no cure for this bloody cancer YET! There are ways to bring the number down, I am totally convinced about it, even if I don t have the miracle solution!

But, if like me you are one of those affected by this directly or indirectly here are 5 steps to fight it back:

 

  1. FORGET STATISTICS! The medical world despite huge progress is still at the infancy of what a human body is and how all these is working. There is much more unknown than known in this equation! Humanity is making huge steps forward in the scale of time (even 20 years back we knew so much little than today). Yet it’s a considerably small %. And when it comes to statistics it says as much as we already know, excluding best and worst scenario, and people not in statistics to begin with! So my first advice: stay away for those terrifying figures and discussion forums: even doctors may be wrong, and there is no one on this planet who can predict death in an accurate way!
  2. RESPECT YOUR BODY! Your body knows how to heal itself! Sometimes as difficult it may be to believe for us instructed and logical people, self-healing works! There are many ways to do this and again lots of sources on internet about it! It can go through meditation, visualising, hypnosis, just give it a real try[1]. And please by all means please do that while keeping the medical treatment on going!
  3. HAVE FAITH! The more I read about this illness the more I understand the power of our own brain! Trust your subconscious mind, it has amazing power![2] You have to believe and to stay positive. Either you are in that illness either you have a loved one affected, the best you can do for you and the others is to keep positive; worrying, stress it’s a source of illness, and has no value added to this process! Believing for real you are in good health and you are getting every day closer to your best health it’s working, as incredibly as it may seem!
  4. LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLNESS! Enjoy life even when it’s tough, even when it feels so unfair! Just try to see the opportunity! No matter how hard may be to do so if you are in the middle of all these right now, have a look on your life, in the most honest way; when feeling so close to death, many things are coming clearer and lighter and somehow the real priorities are becoming evidence! Read about those incredible experiences of people getting off cancer, there are quite a few books and survivors writers out there! You’ll feel less alone and full of hope!
  5. BE CONNECTED TO THE UNIVERSE, the nature, the humanity! So use prayers, no matter your religion, no matter you don t have a religion, find the easiest and closest way for you to pray! Have a read of the amazing book the Healing Words[3], and when someone ask you what they can do for you or your ill loved one simply ask for a prayer! Or a positive thought sent to the universe! This is how energies are getting together! We are all so connected! If you have a chance read this great book The Celestine Prophecy[4], very beautiful and easy reading as well!

 

My heart and prayers go to all of you who have faced this bloody illness no matter where you stand today! Some of you may have lost their loved one and there are no words to reduce the pain you are feeling! I truly believe a quality life is more important than a long life! And that we have no clue what may came after! We may simply go to another level! But today, if you read this, it means you are alive, and that in itself is something big!

Miracles do happen every day! When we have our eyes and heart opened we do see miracles every single moment!

 

#pinkoctober #pink #cancer #breastcancer #survive

[1] http://www.chopra.com/ccl/7-affirmations-for-self-healing

[2] http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/68984.The_Power_of_Your_Subconscious_Mind

[3] http://www.amazon.fr/Healing-Words-Prayer-Practice-Medicine/dp/0062502522

[4] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Celestine_Prophecy

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5 tips to deal with your gremlin

BERNARD BOURIGEAUD (21)

There are times in our lives when we feel down, like all the willingness we once had  has completely vanished. At times we feel completely down, incapable of moving, some of us completely paralyzed by fear; some so uncomfortable with their thought process that go into over doing, having the most busier life ever just to avoid to think; some of us just crying for hours.

All of these shall pass, we know it; and in some specific cases we forget; but in other cases it will not go away without a medical solution. I will not talk about that, I will talk about normal average healthy people who sometimes may just need to take their gremlin for a walk.

Gremlin, out of all the internal blockers this one is the most difficult to overcome. Why? Because they are so close to who we deeply are that sometimes feels the gremlin is us.

What is the so-called gremlin? We can give it different names, but  shortly it is the internal voice which is telling us we are not good enough, this is not for us, you don’t deserve this, etc. Now, we all have it,  some of us stronger than others, some of us able to hear more than others yet we all have it.

We may talk a lot about how this was developed and what is its role. Maybe to keep it short most of the time this is something we develop in  a specific difficult situation or similar repetitive experiences, which in the end made us feel unsafe, almost like in a survival mode. Sometimes it is a real surviving issue. And our gremlin is developed in those moments in order to overcome the danger and to protect ourselves. To keep it short it is easier/safer not to do something than to do it and risk to lose. That’s one of the mechanisms of gremlin.

When things go not as much as we expect them to go, most people will get affected. Feelings of betrayal, angry, sadness, lack of power, guilt, may be associated with gremlin. And then we may hear that internal voice, you are not good enough, this will never work out for you, what were you thinking, etc. The voice and the messages could be different and very specific for each of us.

While removing the gremlin or transforming it as we call the process in coaching may be extremely difficult to do on one’s own, and we always recommend to work with a certified coach on the process, identifying it is already a great step.

In terms of internal voice, sometimes it may be tough to make the difference between a gremlin and something else including the voice of intuition.

The faster way to identify it correctly is to look into what you feel. Feelings associated with fear, down, lack of power, guilt, they usually come from gremlin. The energy associated with it is extremely low, mostly we feel that there are no options, that no matter what we do, nothing will ever change. We sometimes feel we deserve not to be happy, accomplished, healthy and so on. At the opposite when intuition is talking to us we feel a sense of energy, excitement, and willingness to go further, to move mountains.

Now we may not be able to explain none of those voices, at least not at the first step and by ourselves, as it overpasses most of the time our own logic. It does not make sense why do we feel the way we feel.

Instead of challenging the WHY of what we feel, sometimes the best thing we can do is to welcome it. I know it is not the most comfortable guest. We tend to run away, to move from that thought, even to go do whatever  so we no longer feel it and we  no longer talk about it.

In time the gremlin not only could take over but it can destroy us. Whatever was protecting ourselves in a specific moment of our live, whatever was saving us, may prevent us from living now.

What if for a change we just take the gremlin for a walk. Here is what you may try out by yourself:

·      Literally go for a walk. And watch the sky, watch the trees, a specific leaf that is falling, hear the noise even the noise of car passing, or maybe you manage to hear a bird singing, breath as deep as you can, what is that you smell, focus on the steps that you take, how does it feel when you foot touches the ground. And if something prevents you from walking, maybe just open the window and do the same as the above. Notice what is happening with the gremlin when you do so…

·      Have a talk. Some people are afraid to talk to themselves out loud, yet it may just work. Saying to your gremlin I HEAR YOU.

·      This too shall pass. Allow your brain to understand the cycle, the wave are coming and going, and this too shall pass. Meditating while watching waves or fire flames may help even when the gremlin makes a huge presence. And if you are not lucky enough to be in nature, videos of those elements will have similar effects as well.

·      Appreciate what is coming to you, even in the shape of a gremlin. It is far more complicated than it seems, because in those moments all that we already have is non important, is losing its value and the gremlin has the capacity of ignoring the results. Yet we don’t. We can still see the things we do have. It does not have to be violent, just notice inside of you what you do have; even when the gratitude is not taking over, the simple list of accomplishments so far in our lives will create a sense of perspective. Write  down on a paper 5-10 personal accomplishments, and carry it with you. When the gremlin comes stronger just take it out and read it for yourself. You may be surprised by a small smile on your face. That too is who you are.

·      Who am I is not what I feel right now. That is a powerful mantra we may try to adapt. We are not what we feel, we are complex being, and a specific feeling in a specific moment, although so powerful and although so important into our life, it is not our life. It is not who we are. Simply because no one can feel only one  thing or nothing for their entire life. Life is a complex combination of feelings, emotions, thoughts, actions, and so much more. Yet on moments we may feel something that may look like this is, who am I. . You are not your gremlin.

Looking forward to hearing how this works for you. And providing you want to know more about the topic please put your questions/comments/challenges into the comments so I can bring more perspective. This is not a 5 minute read topic, yet it may sometimes take 5 minutes to start doing something about it.

5 questions to check the success of your business

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Success! People may look at success from different angles depending on education, experience, values and much more.  When coming to business success there are a few things that may indicate how profitable, value added and sustainable really is your business!

Many strategies have been defined in order to increase business profit, to reduce cost, to take better care of employees! Yet a shift is happening in the way the world is going, growing and progressing; as its changing at the level of people making business themselves; most of the new graduates which are generally called millenniums are not longer looking at the traditional way of doing business and not very much attracted by traditional corporations[1]; it is not longer only about figures; is how sustainable those figures are and what can define success! In this new innovative way of doing business here are my personal beliefs linked to 5 essential questions to ask in order to make a difference:

 

How successful is your team? No matter you are a mid manager in a corporation or a small size/big size business owner your team will define your success! A successful entrepreneur wants to attract the best! The question is why the best shall come and work for them? When your team is successful not only you see it in results and the work environment but they are “radiating”/shining outside the business. Make sure your people are successful; they are your most important capital! You may consider understanding what they think success is, you may consider sharing profit with them, have a team coach to help them grow as a successful team etc. And there are ways to measure it as well!

 

How successful are your clients? This is probably the oldest definition of success in business: you don’t exist if your clients are not buying what you propose; why they buy from you: mostly because they need/want what you propose and they are happy with you. Yet if you work with someone that has no capability of continue buying whatever you are selling, well there will no longer be a business, especially if you depend on that client entirely! Make sure you work with successful clients: how many clients do you have, what are their results, what are their plans for the future, etc?

 

How successful are your stakeholders? How happy is the community around you with what you do? How much additional values your business brings to them? Most of the time businesses focus so much on figures that they forgot what may create their success or their fail: people around them. Have a look at the community, what is their interest, how can you add something to their life, why shall they be happy you are part of their environment?

 

How successful is your footprint, the environmental impact? We talk a lot about environment these days and yet not enough in relation with business success! Some businesses consider they have no direct impact on it, so it s not their core preoccupation; some others that they do enough to balance some of their negative impact; but let s be honest: how sustainable you can be if what you do is not respectful of the world you operate in; and this goes way behind general environment measures; this come within the DNA of the business owner: lead by example, show a different way of doing business with 0 compromise on this one! There is no other way for any success business to be.

 

How successful is your model? This more than anything will define your current and future success! What is that you do that makes a difference? How relevant is what you do and for whom? What is that your business is bringing to the world? What is your value added? New business are created every day, old businesses are still there to provide in a traditional way; look further, think of what is that you can add to this world and before thinking about success, think about your impact first!

 

 

“If I were to just try to follow or pretend I was somebody else, it wouldn’t be the most true and distinctive version of my highest leadership.”

Abby Falik

 

[1] http://www.fastcompany.com/3034268/the-future-of-work/why-millennials-want-to-work-for-themselves

 

 

5 tips to have the best Women’s Day

How-To-Celebrate-Women-this-monthHappy women’s day my dear ladies!

This is a special day for women all over the world. Yet how many of us actually celebrate it? How many of us are in a place where a celebration is really possible?

Today, I took a walk and felt blessed amidst this great spring morning, flowers all over, such a beautiful aroma lingering in the air, birds singing, the perfect blue sky,, just made me feel like Mother Narure is Happy! No money spent, no energy spent only pure enjoyment of life!

And I had deeply thankful thought for the most beautiful women I have in my life and how much I have received from them! If today you feel sad or lonely or simply too busy here are few tips to make this day a day to remember:

My grandma always looks around and observes! If you go for a walk with her she will tell you about a specific flower she is seeing, she will actually go and smell it, she will see a bird looking for food or making its nest, she will tell you to sit with her and watch what is happening! And she will smile! No matter how hard life was for her, she is still able to simply sit and enjoy and smile! That s the best I have learn from her and I m so grateful to have her around!

My mum would dance no matter where, even when she was cooking she was singing and dancing, even when she could not longer properly walked she will dance while sitting on the couch! Music and dancing have been part of my life every since I was born! And I can tell you nothing changes the mood faster than a little music! That s the best gift my mother gave me in addition to her unconditional love!

My dear friend and coach, she was teaching me how to surf the wave of life, she was holding the space for me to express my emotions, she has shown me that even when pain is there and it is inevitable, suffering is optional; so here is the tip, no matter how scary it may look there is always a place to grow and experience, there is always options, there is always someone to guide you if you allow yourself to be vulnerable! We are not wonder women, we are not God, we are simply beautiful amazing women and that s really something to be happy about!

My best teacher: when I was still a teen and was not clear yet about the best choice for my career, I had this beautiful lady teacher! Thanks to her devotion and passion and believe in my capacities I had become the best in my category in a country contest. I was proud but that was not the best part; the best was simply how much I  enjoyed the topic, how much passion she transmitted to me, not only about what she was teaching but also how beautiful teaching is! I had a great career and I own her this! She has taught me the utility of things, the passion in whatever you do and the power of entrusting a very young person in her way to become an adult! Transmit a little of whatever you have learned in life to a young person that is about to start her journey! Giving is the best feeling and it will definitely make your day!

My soul mate, she looks at me with love and genuine care, she holds me and feeds me, she cheers me up when my world is falling apart, she tells me “I m so proud of you, you are an amazing, strong and beautiful woman”, and for some reason I do believe her! Never underestimate the power of a true friendship! There is nothing more valuable than the human connection! Give without expecting anything in return because so many things will simple came back to you! Find a way to simply be with a true lady friend! That’s the best way to enjoy this women day!

Connect and Make a Difference

7 Skills to Building a High-Impact Network

Networking. So many people are stressed, bored or overwhelmed even by the idea of doing networking.

To start with, most people are simply reducing networking to business. They imagine networking as a meeting you go to, pitch yourself and give your business card. Seen like that no wonder is completely stressful and most of all boring. Why shall I even go to a place where I have to hear people pitch me about their business and try to find a way to leave them my business card?

Second, they enter what we call a number game, providing I give let’s say 50 cards I have at least a chance 5 of them will reach out. Have you been to networking events where you found a business card on your chair? Well, you may know what I’m talking about. Wonder what have you thought about that? Have you been intrigued? Have you thought why did I not come up with this idea as well? Or you felt so sorry for someone that was so desperate to go into such approach? At the end of the day, how many times did you call the number on the “seat” card?

And finally, most people go into networking to do accounting. Basically, an exchange of services or favors. I help you with this now it’s your turn to help me with that. I have recommended you or your wife for this job, now it is your turn as I am without a job. And not only this is not as easy to do, like it is not because there was an opening in your company your connection may have had the skills for at the time, that this is likely to happen back when you are looking for another job. But mostly this creates frustration, a sense of “you are not my friend”, judging and removing any chances to grow that relation further.

One of the questions I get asked the most is how did I build such a powerful international network. The quick answer is that I love people and I do love connecting with someone new every day. The truth is that independent of my love for people which is who I am, there are specific skills I have developed over the years in a very genuine way.

Here are my 7 skills and how to develop them to build a high-impact network:

  • Know your net value. When you enter a relationship having value in mind chances are the relation itself will find value and opportunities. It is far easier to bring your value when you know it and trust yourself. We are all unique and we all have our specific set of skills and characteristics that we are naturally good at and we enjoy so much. Find your value first.
  • Manage your energy. Your level of engagement with every person you meet it is determined not only by your interest but also by your energy level. Look for the opportunity to grow that relation instead of judging the person in front of you, quickly putting them into “boxes”.
  • Seek transformation. The key to transformation is trust, trusting that each day it will bring its learnings, trusting that each one in your network it is your teacher and you are the student and they have their best intention for you.
  • Focus on the world. When you enlarge your network without fear of differences and seeking on developing an inclusive environment where everyone is welcome the way they are, chances are that you will get a much broader view on life and business.
  • Become outcome-free. Fulfillment lies in the complete detachment of the outcome and full enjoyment of the connection. This is probably the most revolutionary part of the way I see networking. It is about the connection and not about the result. Not only the results will come but most probably they will open-up roads you have not even imagined; when you reach out to a connection have no back-mind agenda either than the pleasure of exchanging and growing together more than by yourself.
  • Understand recognition. You are the result of what different people brought into your life, their confidence, their knowledge, their belief in you. Nobody is self-made, and the more we are aware the more we appreciate what others bring into our lives. Recognizing publicly the value you have got from people around you and being grateful for their gift not only makes you humble and human, but it does attract more great people to your network as well.
  • Expand your knowledge. The more you listen the more you learn. To receive more from your connection, you may want to ask powerful questions and genuinely listen to the answers. Listen without trying to answer back, but with the only interest of knowing more.

 

Now you may look to the list and ask yourself what this has to do with networking?

Well precisely. When you approach networking from this perspective not only you build a high-impact network but you have those powerful connections in all areas of your personal, family, career, business life.

To go further you may read “Connect and Make a Difference. 7 Skills to Building a High-Impact Network”[1] by Raluca Gomeaja.

 

 

[1] https://www.amazon.fr/Connect-Difference-Building-High-Impact-Network-ebook/dp/B076YM7S6Q/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1509620778&sr=8-1&keywords=connect+and+make+a+difference

 

3 Overrated Definitions About Friendship

Friendship-article1What’s your own definition? Write a list of five qualities that are important in a friend.

How do you meet friends? How do you build relations? How do you deal with their loss?

Friendship tends to be one of the most important relations in our life; we don’t choose our family, but we choose our friends, right? We may fall out of love with our partner, yet a friend will always be there. So it’s perfectly normal that we put a lot into friendship relations and sometimes it becomes highly emotional.

A recent trip made me think in a completely new way about what friendship is or may/should be. It made me realize that my own definition’s overrated, as well as obsolete. This makes sense as, like most of us, we use a definition that stems from the way we’ve been raised– from our education, family beliefs, competitiveness, etc.

So here was my old definition:

Ø LOYALTY:

One of my top values is loyalty. Lke many of us, I was mistaking loyalty with “no matter what my friend’s doing, I’ll stand by him/her no matter what he/she’s doing to me. I shall take on the burden and be a loyal friend.”

Ø SUPPORT:

Friendship was linked to how much support I’d get from you in times of strife. I was so afraid of not having anyone near me when I would fall, and yet, most of the time, someone’s hand will be there to catch you. Sometimes a stranger, or an angel, invisible (and yet there).

As strange or stressful as it may seem, sometimes we do fall and there’s no one there. Yet those are the times when we grow and we become a better person, able to deeply understand our life purpose.

Ø RECIPROCITY (by keeping an accounting book):

I did that for you, now what’ve you done for me? I offer you this gift, what did you offer me, right?

We tend to look for reciprocity. What if we looked at it less as a mathematical quantitative way, and simply with joy? Maybe a hug’s more important at some point in time than any other gift.

Not all of us have the same way of showing love and care, but the main question remains: did you feel that love and care in whatever gesture your friend has done for you, or do you believe he or she’s not making the effort since they don’t act like you would have?

I asked myself this question: how do you feel when you’re with your friends? Do you feel joy, do you feel compassion, do you feel care? Or do you simply feel angry, judged, insufficient, trying to please them no matter what out of fear of losing them and becoming alone? Are you able to speak the truth? Do you feel guilty, like you let them down?

Be honest, what do you really feel?

So, having said all that, here are my updated Five Characteristics of Friendship:

1. Being Myself

It’s not about how often we get to see each other, it’s the quality time we share together.

I know that I have real friends that I can’t see or speak with as often as I’d want (as we don’t live in the same place), yet when we see each other there’s an immediate connection: I’m home.

2. Enjoying Each Other’s Company

I think this is the most important one for me right now. What do I truly feel when I meet my friend? When I talk with him/her; what do I want to feel? Am I in a secured/compassionate/joyful place? It’s not about making anyone happy, it’s about being happy in your friend’s company.

3. Honesty

Friends can speak with each other from their heart, with no fear and no judgment.

It’s not about the amount of feedback, it’s about how this feedback is given, how are we able to share what’s important for us and for our relation, and why.

4. Genuine Care

This seems so obvious, but it’s about that feeling when someone cares for you from deep down in their heart. Feeling the love they have for you. Feeling the bliss they want for you.

5. Trust

Healthy relations are built on strong foundations, and trust is one of those. Nothing more to say.

The courage of having a real look of your friendships, understanding what they bring to your life or what cost it’s been for you to maintain them, in an emotionally detached way, is the key to having healthy and strong relations.

Have a look and see how this works for you, and no matter how scary it may seem, or how lonely you may feel, you’ll definitely get to realize the freedom that comes when you can be yourself and enjoy it with real friends.

Share this with a friend!

Three steps for a successful start as an entrepreneur

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Entrepreneurship, most wanted job in the world. Or not? I remember when I was young, I thought that being a business owner must be so difficult and so few people could have access to it. Obviously, with time, I did change my mind, yet my intuition was right in many ways.

A recent talk with an entrepreneur friend highlighted once again what may be the blockages, limitations and difficulties of this role. While listening to him, I wondered why I did not have the same experience.

So here is my answer and the 3 steps for the new entrepreneur in you;

1.    Start with the personal side. Your business is you. Whatever blocks you will block your business. Moreover, whatever life style you want to have, you should build a business that is respectful of your life style.

To my start-up clients, I always say the same thing: your business is as successful as you are.

Here are my 3 tips for the personal side of a successful entrepreneur:

·     Believe in yourself and in your business. Believing in what you want is the first step to achieve it.

·     Find your success formula. What is bringing you energy? What environment, what network, how much sleep or exercise, and so on. Some people may need support to identify this. Reach out.

·     Continue with your education. Education is the biggest investment you can do. And no, there is no such an excuse as, you are so busy, you can’t afford more education.

2.    Identify good business ideas. Most people are looking for the billion dollars ideas, there is nothing wrong with that. It might take a longer time and sometimes forever to start this way.

A different way is by answering these 3 simple questions

·     What is the main problem that I’m solving?

·     Who are my ideal clients and where can I find them?

·     What is it that people say I’m really good at?

You see, most people start a business because they like something. Most of the time they even fall in love with their idea. Other than the fact that the emotional link may prevent you from making the right decision, the ugly truth is that nobody cares of what you love but what they want or need.

3.    Have your whole focus on your business. These are my 5 musts:

·     Grow your business. “We either grow or die” and this is true in business as well. There is nothing wrong on staying small, growth may not necessary be profit wise, but on ideas, services, innovations and so much more.

·     Build yourself a professional team, don’t be cheap on people. How many times do I hear: “I can’t afford to hire people.” Well can you afford not to? And please, stop looking at people as per what they cost you versus how much business and value they create for you.

·     Develop a supported network and create some sounding boards. This is one of the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. An entrepreneur is a lonely place. Look for entrepreneur’s clubs, for people doing similar business, for social media groups that have the same characteristics and issues to address. And if you don’t know where to find them reach out and I l’ll suggest a few depending on your country.

·     Hire more successful people to advice you, mentor you and coach you. Those people have been there already. Trying to fix everything by yourself has two main issue: it takes a long time and it may not work. We all have limitations. We all can grow that far by ourselves. And remember there is no such thing as self-made person. The worst I can see is a consultant who have no consultants for their business, a coach with no coach. This only makes one lose credibility (why shall I buy something you don’t value?). More so, the only thing they have in common: not successful…

·     Know your figures and optimize them all the time. It does not matter how small they look at the beginning make a habit of looking at them at least monthly: how much do I make, how much did it cost me, what is my margin …

Most of all: Be patient, every business takes in average, three years to become profitable. It is a long journey. Yet it is your journey to freedom and reaching out to what matters most to you.